Comments for Matrimonium http://www.matrimonium.co.uk Anniversary & Wedding Gifts Thu, 23 Feb 2012 20:05:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by LOLA http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8881 LOLA Thu, 23 Feb 2012 20:05:29 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8881 Honestly, I don't think anything is wrong with them. Becaus ethat way you know what hte couple needs and everybody wins. That way you don't buy the something they don't need/want/like. Honestly, I don’t think anything is wrong with them. Becaus ethat way you know what hte couple needs and everybody wins. That way you don’t buy the something they don’t need/want/like.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by rachel lou http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8880 rachel lou Thu, 23 Feb 2012 19:21:20 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8880 There of if you want a toaster or towels. it's much more personal if they get you something a bit different that they have had to put some thought into, and you tend to appreciate it more. There of if you want a toaster or towels. it’s much more personal if they get you something a bit different that they have had to put some thought into, and you tend to appreciate it more.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by michelle http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8879 michelle Thu, 23 Feb 2012 18:48:16 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8879 Here's how we did it. We did go and quietly choose items for a list. The reason? You wouldn't believe the number of people who's very first question to us after we told them about the wedding was "Where are you registered.?" Never did we print anything that said we were registered. Certianly to put that info on your invite would be downright crude. My Maid of Honor kind of spread the word to those who insisted. If you are having that old fashioned wedding where your parents are inviting tons of people you have never met (doubling your guest list) my experience is that those people tend to be a bit older and old fashioned, and expect you to be registered. My mother-in-law informed me that the original place we had registered at (one that carrys casual household items) was not sufficient for "their" friends. Apparently, I really needed to register with at least one upscale store that she could pass along to her friends. Hence receiving things like a silver candelabra which I suppose some people would find wondefull. (we have used it for our annual halloween party every year since. sorry) Even with the list from our "casual" store - we ended up having to take SO many things back because people chose items from all over the place. Never completing a set together. My husbands brother told all the guys to just buy him Home Depot gift cards. We were doing a lot of home repairs and he had a blast as if he were the tool man himself. But that made me feel bad because then you know how much each person spent. But an awesome gift and something we really needed. All around it is one uncomfortable situation for me. We had just bought a house and paid for a large wedding all by ourselves. So the sad reality was that we did indeed need the gifts we got -especially Home Depot. If I had it my way....I would have had everyone make a donation to a charity. Maybe give them a choice between three? No matter what you do, be prepared to play that game of gift return. Most important -just enjoy your wedding! Here’s how we did it.
We did go and quietly choose items for a list.
The reason? You wouldn’t believe the number of people who’s very first question to us after we told them about the wedding was “Where are you registered.?” Never did we print anything that said we were registered. Certianly to put that info on your invite would be downright crude. My Maid of Honor kind of spread the word to those who insisted.
If you are having that old fashioned wedding where your parents are inviting tons of people you have never met (doubling your guest list) my experience is that those people tend to be a bit older and old fashioned, and expect you to be registered. My mother-in-law informed me that the original place we had registered at (one that carrys casual household items) was not sufficient for “their” friends. Apparently, I really needed to register with at least one upscale store that she could pass along to her friends.
Hence receiving things like a silver candelabra which I suppose some people would find wondefull. (we have used it for our annual halloween party every year since. sorry)
Even with the list from our “casual” store – we ended up having to take SO many things back because people chose items from all over the place. Never completing a set together.
My husbands brother told all the guys to just buy him Home Depot gift cards. We were doing a lot of home repairs and he had a blast as if he were the tool man himself. But that made me feel bad because then you know how much each person spent. But an awesome gift and something we really needed.
All around it is one uncomfortable situation for me.
We had just bought a house and paid for a large wedding
all by ourselves. So the sad reality was that we did indeed need the gifts we got -especially Home Depot.
If I had it my way….I would have had everyone make a donation to a charity. Maybe give them a choice between three?
No matter what you do, be prepared to play that game of gift return. Most important -just enjoy your wedding!

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by sparkleythings_4you http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8878 sparkleythings_4you Thu, 23 Feb 2012 17:59:25 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8878 I have to say a list CAN be good, it helps people who have no idea what to buy and stops you getting 40 toasters of things that you would really not need/use or like. I am not being horrible but some people have got funny taste, I got loads of china ornaments when I got married the first time, I had thought that everyone who knew me would know that I was not "into" ornaments, but I ended up with loads of things that we kept out of sentiment but never ever used. I'm now getting married again and don't have a gift list as we have lived together for two years, if people ask me what we need I just say something very affordable and useful, like towels. I have to say a list CAN be good, it helps people who have no idea what to buy and stops you getting 40 toasters of things that you would really not need/use or like. I am not being horrible but some people have got funny taste, I got loads of china ornaments when I got married the first time, I had thought that everyone who knew me would know that I was not “into” ornaments, but I ended up with loads of things that we kept out of sentiment but never ever used. I’m now getting married again and don’t have a gift list as we have lived together for two years, if people ask me what we need I just say something very affordable and useful, like towels.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by cobenour30 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8877 cobenour30 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 17:26:18 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8877 First off, you should be able to buy what you want them to have, even though they may have a list. Some ppl can't afford what Bride and Grooms have on there list. So they should just be thankful to be get ting a gift in the first place. It is about the thought not what you buy. If they insist on having something off there list, then get them a card and put a little bit of money in it and let them know what they didn't recieve off there list they can put the money towards one of those items. First off, you should be able to buy what you want them to have, even though they may have a list. Some ppl can’t afford what Bride and Grooms have on there list. So they should just be thankful to be get ting a gift in the first place. It is about the thought not what you buy. If they insist on having something off there list, then get them a card and put a little bit of money in it and let them know what they didn’t recieve off there list they can put the money towards one of those items.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by Nosey parker http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8876 Nosey parker Thu, 23 Feb 2012 16:28:43 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8876 I must admit I always think wedding lists are a bit of a cheek, as most of the items are likely to be very expensive. It does take away something which has individually been bought with the person in mind. So its no longer a special gift. The other scenario is receiving 20 clocks, 10 kettles, 4 irons, 6 sets of his and her towels... etc you get my drift. Enough to take to a car boot sale. So as most people do prefer to buy a gift you could always make out seperate lists with an either or choice of say something small and mid priced so to reduce the possibility of repeat gifts - you have given a slip of paper with two items mentioned on it to each individual or family who you feel may buy a gift. For example; Mam and dad, Kitchen microwave.Or Cutlery set. Mam and dad two, Dinner ware set or pressure cooker. A Brother....An electric kettle or Toaster.* A Sister.......An electric kettle or toaster. * They need to get talking. here. Grand ma and grand dad..Set of non stick pans or Tea towels and matching oven to table glove set. Grand ma and grand dad two, Set of Casserole dishes or flan ring and cake tins. Aunty Joan and family.. One set of his and her towels or Bathroom towel rail and matching Tissue holder. Uncle John and family. His and hers bathroom robes or dressing gowns. Bathroom mat set. Aunty Betty, Kitchen blinds ---" inches by ----". from ..........shop or mug tree and matching Kitchen towel rail from ...............shop. Uncle James, Living room curtains--------"inches by -------" from ............................shop. Wall clock. Cousin Anne, Settee throw from.................colour or pattern design..............or a group of three ornate scatter cushions from ...................shop. Cousing Jeff, Living room rug from .....................shop design and colour.................................... A vase. Business colleague Set of Wine Glasses or a wine decanter. Busienss colleague Bottle of spirit ....................... or wine. Long term friends ......Duvet cover from ......................shop design ...................... or pair of sheets shade .................... Long term friends.......Bedroom rug from ..........or large ornate scatter cushion for the bed from ....................... Long term friends...... A picture for your hall way or hall way runner from................... Can you see what is happening. Eventually all the little bits that make your home a home would be coming in as wedding gifts, the option they didn't get you would have to get. There will always be a chance that you will get a selection of smaller things and just maybe some things will get repeated but by all standards this is the best way to deal with wedding lists. There is no need for the bottom drawer in this day and age things can be bought reasonably priced today. If someone is completely at a loss they could always give you a cheque. What do you think? You like the idea? Will it cause you too much trouble to think out? I must admit I always think wedding lists are a bit of a cheek, as most of the items are likely to be very expensive. It does take away something which has individually been bought with the person in mind. So its no longer a special gift.

The other scenario is receiving 20 clocks, 10 kettles, 4 irons, 6 sets of his and her towels… etc you get my drift. Enough to take to a car boot sale.

So as most people do prefer to buy a gift you could always make out seperate lists with an either or choice of say something small and mid priced so to reduce the possibility of repeat gifts – you have given a slip of paper with two items mentioned on it to each individual or family who you feel may buy a gift.

For example;

Mam and dad, Kitchen microwave.Or Cutlery set.

Mam and dad two, Dinner ware set or pressure cooker.

A Brother….An electric kettle or Toaster.*

A Sister…….An electric kettle or toaster. * They need to get talking. here.

Grand ma and grand dad..Set of non stick pans or Tea towels and matching oven to table glove set.

Grand ma and grand dad two, Set of Casserole dishes or flan ring and cake tins.

Aunty Joan and family.. One set of his and her towels or
Bathroom towel rail and matching Tissue holder.

Uncle John and family. His and hers bathroom robes or dressing gowns. Bathroom mat set.

Aunty Betty, Kitchen blinds —” inches by —-”. from ……….shop or mug tree and matching Kitchen towel rail from ……………shop.

Uncle James, Living room curtains——–”inches by ——-” from ……………………….shop. Wall clock.

Cousin Anne, Settee throw from……………..colour or pattern design…………..or a group of three ornate scatter cushions from ……………….shop.

Cousing Jeff, Living room rug from …………………shop design and colour……………………………… A vase.

Business colleague Set of Wine Glasses or a wine decanter.

Busienss colleague Bottle of spirit ………………….. or wine.

Long term friends ……Duvet cover from ………………….shop design …………………. or pair of sheets shade ………………..

Long term friends…….Bedroom rug from ……….or large ornate scatter cushion for the bed from …………………..

Long term friends…… A picture for your hall way or hall way runner from……………….

Can you see what is happening. Eventually all the little bits that make your home a home would be coming in as wedding gifts, the option they didn’t get you would have to get.

There will always be a chance that you will get a selection of smaller things and just maybe some things will get repeated but by all standards this is the best way to deal with wedding lists. There is no need for the bottom drawer in this day and age things can be bought reasonably priced today. If someone is completely at a loss they could always give you a cheque.

What do you think? You like the idea? Will it cause you too much trouble to think out?

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by leroux3s http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8875 leroux3s Thu, 23 Feb 2012 16:09:12 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8875 1st. of all not everyone(including some brides) realize that this registry is a way to let people know what you need! this is and was intended to be a way for maybe someone that doesn't know the bride or groom that well(like extended family memebers or co-workers)to be able to get a gift that they don't already have and need! this is like a suggestion list ! This in NOT A LIST OF DEMANDS FROM THE BRIDE! it is a shame our world is so into monetary items and not just being a part of a wonderful celebration! this registry thing really is a good idea ! to bad some people made it an un wanted service 1st. of all not everyone(including some brides) realize that this registry is a way to let people know what you need!
this is and was intended to be a way for maybe someone that doesn’t know the bride or groom that well(like extended family memebers or co-workers)to be able to get a gift that they don’t already have and need!

this is like a suggestion list !
This in NOT A LIST OF DEMANDS FROM THE BRIDE!
it is a shame our world is so into monetary items and not just being a part of a wonderful celebration!
this registry thing really is a good idea !
to bad some people made it an un wanted service

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by melouofs http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8874 melouofs Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:41:41 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8874 I love them and always buy right from the list because I know its something the couple has chosen, and that they actually want this thing. I can't stand the thought that I'd spend good money on something, only to have it sit in some closet, never to see the light of day again. That being said, a gift registry is only a guideline, and your sister went a little overboard by banninb you from buying her anything that wasn't on her list. I love them and always buy right from the list because I know its something the couple has chosen, and that they actually want this thing. I can’t stand the thought that I’d spend good money on something, only to have it sit in some closet, never to see the light of day again. That being said, a gift registry is only a guideline, and your sister went a little overboard by banninb you from buying her anything that wasn’t on her list.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by Michelle118 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8873 Michelle118 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 14:44:41 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8873 I think it's necessary. I'd rather buy people something I know that they want and need. I think it’s necessary. I’d rather buy people something I know that they want and need.

]]> Comment on Wedding Gift Lists – do you agree with them? by MariChelita http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8872 MariChelita Thu, 23 Feb 2012 14:36:43 +0000 http://www.matrimonium.co.uk/wedding-gift-lists-do-you-agree-with-them/#comment-8872 I think Wedding registries are a helpful idea because you get to see what the bride and groom need and/or want. But I also dont see why you would necessarily HAVE to purchase it from that exact place. Now about your sister, if you wanted to get her the photo frames, you should have without asking her. I bet that would have been her favorite gift. I dont think its appropriate for the bride to say that you HAVE to get her something from her list and purchase it off of her list either. I think Wedding registries are a helpful idea because you get to see what the bride and groom need and/or want. But I also dont see why you would necessarily HAVE to purchase it from that exact place. Now about your sister, if you wanted to get her the photo frames, you should have without asking her. I bet that would have been her favorite gift. I dont think its appropriate for the bride to say that you HAVE to get her something from her list and purchase it off of her list either.

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