Question by !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!: Help me to forget my wedding day and all negative stuff from my in-laws?
I love my husband very much and he loves me.His parents are trying to break us up since the beginning. I tried everything with those phony people-nothing worked except that I told my husband that I don't want to see his parents anymore.(that's was a last shot-otherwise we would get a divorce). My mother-in law ruined my wedding and I have a really bad memories about that day. She switched the order of the cake I wanted-so I didn't have my cake, she dressed up as a bride as well at my wedding,told me that she would order a song on our first dance-never happened as well.In-laws took off in the middle of our wedding and they took with them all the food ,that cake and all our presents.I found out what they did later on, it was to late, they already left. Following day they gave us our presents-but all the presents were opened. Of course it hurts, still hurts. I am an orphan-and when my parents were alive they treat me with respect, honor and etc. My in-laws humiliated and abused me all the time. They are not good people.But, I don't want to know them anymore. I am happy with my husband. I just don't know how to forget all of that abuse and humiliation, which were for the last 4 years-until I said I don't want to see their faces. Enough is enough!! Any suggestions how to erase my bad memories in-laws gave me.I don't want to think about all of that humiliation-which would never stop from in-laws side. When I watch some other wedding-I start to remember mine-and it hurts again. Please tell me how to get rid all the negative memories from my head. I want to live in piece. Thank you
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Answer by acostigan910
Maybe try renewing your vows... have a nice ceremony and a receptions and do not invite the inlaws... its kind of like a wedding do over then those happy memories will over write the bad ones.
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To begin your husband needs to speak them and explain if they wanna be any part of his life or their possible grandchildren lives that their behavior towards you needs to change if they don’t he needs to cut it off being in a family where I didn’t know my grandmother because she did the same thing it sounds like your in laws are to my mom that’s the only way it will end…. he needs to tell them to stop be so childish…… I think your best off completely cutting them off and you need your husbands support for that and possibly plan a little wedding again with some really close friends and just small and simple not too costly so you can remember that one instead. I’m sorry that’s a terrible situation but the only way it can get better is to have your husband stand up for you.
First of all, I am so sorry that happened to you. It should have been a day about you and your husband. Maybe you and your husband can take a romantic vacation and renew your vows. Even order a small cake for the two of you.
I hope ur husband stood up for u b/c thats just so fucked up wat his in-laws did to u…u should renew ur vowels…this time don’t invite his parents…
ohhh hell no…
I would have never even let them in my wedding.,…. my mother in law did something similar..she cried during the whole wedding day saying she was sad that I was taking her son from her.. but its better to move on and just live life… renew your bows and or just have a private lil ceremony with u and ur hubby … something romantic..
I first want to say that they are some complete jerks. That’s very childish, embarrassing and ridiculous on their part. I think you should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel because not only did they disrespect you they disrespected him. No matter how they feel about you they shouldn’t have intruded like that on your wedding because that his special day as well. Maybe you two should move too another city and try starting all over again.
I’m really sorry you had to go through that. All I can say is that you’re better off without them. I think we’ve all had our share of bad moments with our in-laws, but that was horrible what they did to you. Let me tell you what happened at my wedding, maybe it will make you feel a tiny little bit better about what they did to you at yours.
My father in law was already drunk for the ceremony. He didnt make a scene or anything but you could so tell he was drunk. My sister in law wore a white dress to my wedding… MY WEDDING!!! How freakin’ dare she… I still get pissed off when I think about it. Then during the reception my father in law brings some whore as his date and they keep dancing all disgusting. My mother in law took off early (they’re divorced) so we didnt get much help from her. Here comes the good part. After the wedding we went to my parent’s house before leaving to ours new place. Well when we arrived at our new place, my father in law along with another drunk buddy of his and about 4 whores were in the living room living it up. I wanted to spend our first night as husband and wife in our new place and I couldnt. My husband’s little brother walked in the house to find his dad naked with some b*tch, ran out crying. my other brother in law tried to quiet him down by putting his hands over his mouth, the little guy ran like crazy all over the back yard yelling “He’s gonna hit me, he’s gonna hit me” when we were finally able to calm the little guy down, we kicked out the people in our house and the stupid a$ $ ladies left telling me off for throwing them out saying that I had to kill their night! ME! Well after that the little boy started crying again, his dad was passed out and his brother was acting like an a$ $ hole (surprise, surprise) so we ended up having to drive the little boy his mom’s house an hour away from where we live. by the time we got back into town it was 5am. Needless to say my wedding night was nonexistent. what a shitty night it was!!!!
See you’re not the only one with bad inlaws.
I really hope my wedding night made your wedding day just a little less horrible, because trust me I know what you’re talking about.
Damn chick! They did their best to put a hurtin’ on you but don’t let them succeed. Get together with a small group of those who love you and redo your wedding. Also, you say you love your husband but he needs his ass kicked too for
letting his parents do this to you. He should have known what kind of people they were.
sweetie thats sad! i’m sorry you have such in-laws and while it may not help much you should know there are many brides in the same boat!
here is what i find works best for me i it isn’t so much forgetting them as it is making yourself, your hubby, your marriage, your life a good and happy one. that sweetie is the best revenge in any situation.
you don’t say if your man understands what is going on nor do you say if he wants them in his life. but you have two choices – you can rant and rave and make him unhappy thus taking the chance of his seeing you from through their eyes
or
you can suck it up, put on a brave face, be polite around them, and get through whatever family visits you have to have with them. when they make rude or unkind comments just smile and change the subject.
trust me if all they ever see is your smiling face, if all they see is the two of you are happy together, if all they see is you don’t care what they think, eventually they will give it up. the bonus is by doing it this way they can never point a finger and accuse you of being the troublemaker and your hubby will know that you have done all you can.
people often say ‘you aren’t marrying his/her family, you’re marrying him/her’.
well thats wrong – you are marrying the family and you are stuck with them so all you can do is try your best sweetie! good luck to you!
wow. they sound like my REAL parents! do anything to humiliate ya. you did good in getting them outa the pic. thats what i had to do. its hard. and you may NEVER forget what they did. but if you move on. you will be happier. just dont sit around and think about the negative. it makes it worse. i agree with the answer renew your vows. just a private you two ceremony with someone to take pics of you too so its like a re do but with happy memories to put in your photo album. good luck.
How awful for you! I’m so sorry.
I know it sounds corny, but you really can talk yourself out of these memories. Every night before you go to sleep, make sure to list 5 (or 10 or 2) things that happened during the day that were good.
If you are a praying person, pray for the strength to let go of the hurts of the past.
Make time for yourself and do yoga or exercise or something like that. While doing it, tell yourself that you are a great person and have a happy marriage and a good life.
Over time, these good thoughts will push away the yucky ones.
Good luck to you!