How to do a secret marriage in Islam where the girls parent is not muslims and boy’s parent is not present?

February 4, 2013 | By

Question by Newton: How to do a secret marriage in Islam where the girls parent is not muslims and boy's parent is not present?
How to do a secret marriage in Islam where the girls parent is not muslims and boy's parent is not present. Boy has kept the marriage to his parents and relatives for the purpose of security.
The girls mother and his stepfather agreed.

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Answer by MayangSari
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'Honor crimes are acts of violence, usually murder, committed by male family members against female family members, who are held to have brought dishonor upon the family. A woman can be targeted by (individuals within) her family for a variety of reasons, including: refusing to enter into an arranged marriage, being the victim of a sexual assault, seeking a divorce — even from an abusive husband — or (allegedly) committing adultery. The mere perception that a woman has behaved in a way that "dishonors" her family is sufficient to trigger an attack on her life.'

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i could not find a graphic symbol that would convey my almost unlimited level of disgust and abhorrence toward this form of behaviour.

let me be very very plain indeed here.

anybody engaging in this practice is a savage.

a savage.

i don't give a damn about your religion, traditions or your skin pigmentation.

people who engage in this practice belong to the dark ages, they belong to the howling ignorant infancy of our species.

this is nothing more than religiously mandated barbarism.

and those who follow this mandate are barbaric.

utterly uncivilised.

have i made myself clear?


if anybody can comment on this piece of work and defend honour killings, i would be only too glad to hear your opinion in defence of this shameful, male centric and entirely insane practice.


do feel free to watch this sam harris TED lecture:

it is a reasonably brief 24 minutes and offers the opinion that we should not shirk from calling these kinds of behaviours exactly what they are.


to quote harris:

'how have we convinced ourselves that every opinion has to count?'

how have we done this?

how can we possibly condone [or indeed ignore] this sickening religiously mandated violence?

we cannot.

we should not.

we should attack this foul, evil and ignorant practice at every opportunity for exactly what it is.

sickening barbaric savagery.


the evil and twisted individuals who take part in this wholly disgusting practice do not warrant the description 'human beings'.

it would make much more sense to me were it the fact any parent contemplating an honour killing would be summarily killed themselves.

this would obviate the need for this insane religious practice and allow their offspring to make free and open minded decisions regarding their own lives and the behaviour patterns they choose to follow.

once again.

religion poisons everything:

have i made myself clear?




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Comments (4)

  1. Richard B

    stay out of fundamentalist Muslim Countries like Saudi Arabia or be stoned to death

    YOu got BIG Problems

  2. Juditabandita

    This is not a marriage. At best this is a halal girlfriend.

  3. jurgen

    If security is the reason,it may be valid reason.In spite of the rigid rules,Islam offer a lot of flexibilities if condition warranted. It is one’s mind that make it difficult .

    But, make sure the marriage is documented and performed by a competent imam, in case,to protect woman from any form of injustice.Also, the marriage has to be registered in the civil office.

  4. Nana chiko

    id rather u as a sheik (scholar) for this
    and u can explain to him the problem
    and hell tell u wat ur supposed 2 do
    u shouldnt just blindly follow wat ppl on yahoo answers tell u 2 do concerning this kind of stuff