Is asking for money for wedding gift proper?

14 Responses to Is asking for money for wedding gift proper?

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   Alyssa Mcgrath on January 16, 2012 at 1:34 pm

   Most people give money giftcard that sort of thing they do request stuff but iv never seen that 4 a wedding only 4 baby showers

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   Babygirl18 on January 16, 2012 at 2:22 pm

   It’s not proper and in some cases it’s considered tacky and rude but my fiance and I are doing it anyway. We are having a small wedding with about 60 people, everybody is close close friends and close close family. So what we decided that he will tell his family and friends that we prefer monetary gifts rather than household gifts and I will tell my friends and family the same. I know that my family wouldn’t mind hearing it from me but may not take it the same if they here it from him and vice versa. We are young, we lived together for 2 years and have everything we need. Our family is being very understanding. I guess it all depends on who your guest are. We have the type of family where we can say that we prefer monetary gifts and they would be ok with that.

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   fizzy stuff on January 16, 2012 at 3:13 pm

   You are correct. It is not proper.

   Although some people won’t think anything of it. These are the same people who think it’s ok to ask for money or have money trees.

   But for people with manners, not appropriate.

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   Kristin on January 16, 2012 at 3:52 pm

   I have been a part of 3 weddings in the past 6 months where the bride has registered on these sites (honeyfund.com, giftsforyourhoneymoon.com, etc..). I got married about 8 months ago and did not do this, but many couples are doing this now! I think that the couple should absolutely always have at least one separate gift registry available for those who would like to buy actual gifts. If their only registry is the honeymoon registry than it is a little bit rude, but if separate gift options are available and the honeymoon registry is a choice of the giver, then I think it’s totally acceptable!

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   joinme4coffee on January 16, 2012 at 4:10 pm

   Fashions change, but manners never do. This is really tacky. Your friend and her fiance should be planning their wedding and honeymoon to fit their budget. It is not the obligation of the guests to fund the wedding or honeymoon. Guests are guests and gifts are voluntary. You should get them a gift that is thoughtful and non-returnable.

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   NiKKi on January 16, 2012 at 4:56 pm

   Well I for one am not a rude, or tacky, or improper person. I got married 2 weeks ago and we didn’t do any registries. We have everything we need. The only thing we don’t have a lot of is money. We went to Tennessee for our Honeymoon. My parent’s rented us a cabin in the mountains there. We decided we would drive. So, I thought it would be better for us if we just told people, if they asked, that we only needed money or gift cards. That was used to help with the gas to drive, and to help us do all the fun things in the area. We had a great time thanks to all of our wedding guests and their gifts. Would we not have asked for the money, and registered for things we already had, or didn’t need, we would not have been able to experience what we had on our Honeymoon. Nobody sneered at us or thought it was improper. They were happy to use the money they would have spent on a gift and just put it in a wedding card. In total we got almost $ 3,000. Obviously a lot of people don’t find it tacky.

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   Jennie Westwood on January 16, 2012 at 5:06 pm

   In the present financial climate this is becoming increasingly common. It used to be considered bad form to make a wedding list but that is now totally acceptable. What they are asking for in this case is for everyone to club together to buy them a honeymoon that they could otherwise not afford. I think it’s fine.

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   Vibiana on January 16, 2012 at 6:05 pm

   It is extremely tacky. She says she does not need anything, but actually she does: some manners.

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   Jenny Lynne on January 16, 2012 at 6:23 pm

   I have read briefly on this site that this is being done, but it is in just as bad taste as having a wishing well, dollar dance or whatever. It is basically sponging off your friends to pay for their honeymoon and it is more than tasteless, downright rude and disgusting!!!

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    Maybaby on January 16, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    i dont see anything wrong with it, my fiance and i set up a savings account for family to put money in so we could even afford are wedding, and the only person who didnt like it was my grandma on my moms side who thought it was tacky but is giving money the day of, my dads side though loved the idea!!! i didnt do a honeymoon registry, i registered at about 4 stores, but if people asked what we really needed or wanted i asked for money, for both my work shower and my family shower, and i did get money everyone understood, i get married in 3 days and i have all the money i need for my honeymoon without that money but it would be “nice” to have more so we can do more, i also asked for money for the wedding. i in no way think its rude as long as you have other options for those who dont have money to give and would rather get a cheep gift or just a gift in general

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    liz on January 16, 2012 at 7:30 pm

    Its wrong, improper and unethical to assume you will get wedding gifts anyway since they are not traditionally essential. People get carried away when they get married and automatically think they are going to get presents, this now has taken a back seat and most couples want money. Its all so wrong, when I got married 2 years ago, we never had a wedding list, people gave or never gave, we just wanted them to be with us to witness our celebration of love.
    If you feel this is inappropriate then dont abide by it, there are no rules to say you have to do this, so dont.
    If you want to get them a little gift, thats your decision and if you dont want to get anything for them thats your decision too. I personally would not play along if I did not agree with it.

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    S on January 16, 2012 at 8:17 pm

    Because a lot of couples live together before marriage they tend to have all the houshold goods so asking for a donation is very common. In fact I have been to 5 weddings in the last year and money was asked for in all of them

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    Lesmisky on January 16, 2012 at 8:54 pm

    tacky. Couples should not ask their guests to fund their honeymoon. That is there responsibility.

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    Janice 10 on January 16, 2012 at 9:21 pm

    It is tacky to ask for money or gift certificates for your wedding. You are correct. Wedding guest should give what they choose to give as a wedding gift.

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