Question by Lindsey: Making changes to my engagement ring?
On the day of the wedding:
We both wore cheap, $ 20 silver rings, which I still have and cherish.
1st Year Anniversary:
Upgrade to a 3 Stone . . .
2nd Year Anniversary:
Upgrade to a 1.5 solitaire, ideal princess Cut. This loose diamond I am planning to keep forever.
A new bridal setting for the solitaire diamond.
Personal engraved message on the band.
A halo of diamonds surrounding my solitaire ring.
He says he likes to upgrade my ring because I don't wear any other jewelry besides my engagement ring, so he makes upgrades to my ring. He says it's a way for him to signify the changes in our lives together because nothing ever stays the same, and like my ring, our love will change and only become stronger and more beautiful over time. He also says the fact that I would marry him with a cheap, silver ring means so much to him, and now that we can afford a better ring, he wants to give me the best. Still, I am starting to become reluctant because people are starting to make negative comments and accuse me of trying to be "flashy" even though this is the only piece of jewelry I wear. My friends say they would never spend "so much" money on making changes to their rings. The changes he made to my ring is relatively small, but over the years, the changes made has added up significantly. What should I do? Should I hide the changes to my ring whenever our anniversary comes up or tell my husband to stop with the changes?
Answer by Cate M
You know, I think you should do whatever makes you happy. I know sometimes it's hard to ignore what other people think, but this is a case where you really need to. It may be hard, but you have to say to these people "Why do you care if my husband wants to upgrade my ring? It is none of your business." If you feel like you need to explain it, then simply say "My husband and I married with very little money. Each year, he upgrades my ring as a symbol of his love." If you like your ring and are happy with it now, simply tell him so. Please try to ignore the people who tell you that it's flashy. If you love it, that's what's important. If you prefer he stop upgrading it, ask him to think about an anniversary band to go along with it.
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