Question by Chillimohican: My friend is getting married in 5 weeks time?
She asked me last year if I would be her Maid of Honour to which I gladly accepted. I met with her waaaaay back in March to chat about ideas for her hen party and we came up with some good ideas to which I researched and presented options to her and she chose a Latino dance session, meal and club in a latino restaurant in our local town. We then met again shortly after where I had to tell her my good news that I was expecting a baby and would be quite heavily pregnant by the time her wedding comes around in october (i'm due in Dec) but by no means would it stop me from my Maid of Honour duties and being there for her on her big day but I would also understand wholeheartedly if she decided to ask another friend as a lot of brides may not want a pregnant bridesmaid on their special day and in the pictures. She said not at all and still wanted me. She bought me a dress (a size too big) it didnt fit but said she'd get it altered for me. Since then I was busy contacting all her hen night girls and really struggled getting anyone to confirm they would come. She doesnt have many friends and most are work colleagues of which she doesnt get along with too well. The venue wanted a minimum of 12 for the booking but I could only get 9 of us to commit 
I had to go back and tell her and ask if she wanted me to look at alternative venues and/or dates. She didnt get back to me. I emailed her again and also asking could we meet up to try on the dress again. No response. I emailed again. No response. Finally she emailed back saying she'd seen her behind and was disappointed at the lack of response on her hen night and wanted to cancel having one altogether. I told her not too and whatever we did she'd have an amazing night. In the end she managed to rally a few other girls and got the 12 for the booking. I said that was fantastic and when could we meet up to try on the dress again? No response. I emailed again and said that I understood if she didnt want me as a bridesmaid as I was pregnant and if that was the case to not feel like she would offend me and that as long as I was there to help celebrate her day thats all that mattered. She emailed back saying she'd get back to me and it's been over a week now and nothing. She gets married in 5 weeks. Her hen night is a week on Saturday. Do I go? What do I do?
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Answer by Russell Tygar
he is totally idiot
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I’d just shoot her another email saying you don’t want to intrude or anything if she wants to go another way, but you’d like to know so you can stop stressing over it one way or another.
phone her or go to her house just pop in for a cuppa! then you can have a catch up chat and you can ask away then!
i hope you get it sorted soon :O)
for god sake… she seems like a totally selfish cow who doesnt realise how lucky she is to have a freind like you. the fact that she struggled to get 12 people to commit to her hen nite says it all really. ok … youre pregnant… not ill…. but that doesnt mean u got nothing better to do than chase around after sum1 who cant even be arsed to message you back….
my advice is …STOP BEING A DOORMAT.
send her a message saying… i realise u r busy and may not have ime to reply to all my messages… it must be a very stressful time. however i am starting to feel like a stalker. i am very happy to join you on your hen night but would prefer to just be a normal guest at your big day which i am sure will be fantastic… see you on saturday!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Well she doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me. She should behonouredd to have a friend like you. You have been their for her whenno onee wanted to go to her hen party,you managed to get other people to go when you thought you were going to have to cancel the venue, you even offered to book something else, she should be happy for you with your good news. It sounds to me like shes a very selfish person. In your condition you do not need this extra stress. She needs to grow up and tell you whats happening. You have told her that don’t mind if she asks someone else to be her maid of honour and she said she would get back to you. And you wonder why she has no friends if she can treat the only one she has like that then there is your answer. Personally i wouldn’t go to her hen night but at the same time why should you not enjoy it after all you did organises it all. I hope this helps you in some way.xxxx