Question by : Wedding traditions and tips?
So what exactly is the gift list? Is that for other people or for us (the bride & groom) I dont understand what we have to do? =S
And the rings? Who get who a ring and when and are there 2 rings or do you just use the same one from the engagement?
And what kind of suit is the groom supposed to wear? Tuxedo or normal suit?
Also what is the publication of the banns? Is there anything else that comes with getting married in the church that we need to do?
Very confused lol so any help or tips would be much appreciated!!
Just any info or advice please - need to squeeze as much info into my head as possible because we honestly dont have a clue!
Thank you if you answer and I will try my hardest to pick best answer =]
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Answer by william hing
i wouldnt get married, but if you must : gift list is what you want people to buy you cash is best. and you normaly have a wedding ring as well
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So what exactly is the gift list? Is that for other people or for us (the bride & groom) I dont understand what we have to do? =S
A wedding gift registry is set up by the bride and groom at one or more stores. It is basically a list of the things you would like to receive as gifts from guests. That way if you need a toaster, if/when your guests go to the store to buy it, only one person can buy it for you (they tell the store to remove it from the list once it’s purchased) so you don’t get multiples of the same items. Also, you can pick things that you know will match your style and coordinate together. Sure, your guests are friends and family, but when Great Aunt Sally thinks looks “cute” in your kitchen, might not be so cute to you two. So you can pick your towels and dinner plates out that you love, and your guests can purchase what they think is best for your gifts.
Not every guest will buy from the registry, but it’s nice as a guest to have something to go off of. I was good friends with a guy from college and got invited to his wedding. Sure, I was close to him, but not his new wife, so I had no idea what her style was, so I had no clue what to get them for their new home.
And the rings? Who get who a ring and when and are there 2 rings or do you just use the same one from the engagement?
Most couples get wedding bands, one for her, one for him. Your ring is worn additionally the engagement ring (on the same finger as the engagement ring). But it is somewhat common to have just one ring for the girl. Either using the engagement ring as the band, or not having an engagement ring at all and having a fancier wedding band that is worn on it’s own.
And what kind of suit is the groom supposed to wear? Tuxedo or normal suit?
The suit style is up to the two of you. It’s what he feels comfortable in, and what goes with the style of the wedding. If you are having a more traditional wedding that is late afternoon with an evening reception, a tux would be appropriate, but a very nice suit with a matching vest and tie wouldn’t look too casual. If you are having a more casual morning or outdoor wedding, a suit would be more fitting.
Also what is the publication of the banns? Is there anything else that comes with getting married in the church that we need to do?
It used to be that you didn’t need a marriage license issued by the state/provincial government if you announced the wedding for three full weeks before the ceremony. The announcement would have to be posted to the church community for three full weeks so that anyone who knew of an objection could voice it. But these days “church communities” aren’t really as close and all-knowing as they once were, so you have to get a marriage license from the government to make the wedding legal. Really, getting the license just means the government checks to make sure that you and your husband-to-be are not already married, or that you are properly, legally divorced, and also that you are not too closely related to be legally married (like siblings, first cousins, etc). If those two things check-out then no one can legally object to the marriage.
If you really want an “I don’t know anything about wedding planning” type guide. Check out Real Simple Weddings. They have simple check lists and tip sheets for every aspect of planning. From what to ask your cake maker to advice on picking your wedding party. They also have a great general “wedding planning checklist” that I found was the most helpful one available online.
http://browse.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/weddings/index.html
Hope that helps!
the gift list, if you mean gift registry list, is when you go to a couple different stores and open a gift registry and list all the things you need from that store. I would suggest registering at a couple different stores (for example, Wal*Mart, Target, Bed, Bath, and Beyond, etc.). The people at each store that you register at are very helpful and understand that it can be very stressful planning a wedding… they try to make your experience at their store as relaxing and uneventful as possible
After registering at a couple different places (with the wonderful help of the store employees), they tell you exactly what to do to tell everyone how and where you are registered. They usually either make little cards that say where you are registered to put in the envelope when you send out the invitations, or they tell you how to do it.
The rings… usually the bride and groom go together to pick out wedding bands. The engagement ring CAN be used instead of using both the engagement ring and a wedding band, but its typical that a bride has both. She wears the engagement ring down the aisle and the wedding band is added to her finger during the exchanging of the vows.
It doesn’t matter if the groom has a tuxedo or a normal suit. Some people do tuxes, some just do suits. It depends on how much money you guys are wanting to spend, and whether or not it’s worth buying or renting a tux for just this one time.
That’s about all the information i have to offer you, but i hope it helps you somehow!!!
the gift list is when you usually go to a store and register for gifts(they can help you out there)
with the rings you have your engagement ring and a wedding ban that gets put on your finger during the ceremony. That goes on first followed by the engagement. like this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_YdX_XGobGWU/StzaZq0hzRI/AAAAAAAAAFI/2uSm6wPWYAU/s320/wedding-rings-sets.jpg
the engagement has the main diamond and the wedding ban is usually with a few small diamonds or none at all.
the grooms suit depends on if your wedding is formal(black tie) or casual. A back or grey tux can be used for whatever and you wear a tie or botie and the grooms men usually wear a vest that is the color of the bridesmaid dresses and the groom can usually wear a white vest to offset from everyone else.
in the church usually you need to take some classes, but if you talk to whoever is in charge of that at the church, they will help you.
congrats and good luck on your wedding planning and i hope i helped!