Question by poppy: What do guys think of the girls they hook up with?
1. What do you think about the girl you just makeout with? 2. What do you think about the girl you have casual sex with?
3. Can a relationship come out of a hookup? If you makeout, but don't have sex? If you do have sex? Explain.
Answer by Propane Cylinder
1 & 2 - Well, I never "hooked up" casually with girls. Kissing and making out always seemed to be very intimate activities to me, but apparently I'm in the minority compared to what lots of kids are doing these days.
3. It's unlikely that a stable and healthy relationship will result from a hook up... mostly because guys don't respect easy girls.
FYI, my wife and I were both virgins when we got married in our mid-twenties. No regrets.
Was everything immediately and completely perfect? Not exactly, but since we kept ourselves pure for each other... there wasn't any excess emotional baggage, haunting memories, shame, or diseases. God has since blessed us with a wonderful family and a happy life together.
Since you are apparently a bit curious... then how about some free advice for her about sex and virginity? OK.
Sex is like a fine pearl... i.e., it is valuable and needs to be treated with care and respect. Just like a pearl should never be trampled into the mud by pigs, you should never give your body to a horny BF or anyone else who doesn't love and respect you.
The typical arguments of "I think I'm ready" or "I'm horny" or "He's horny" or "We love each other" or "Everyone else is doing it" or "I don't have a Dad and I'm hungry for male attention" are not reliable measurements of being emotionally prepared for sex.
Pre-marital sex is a bad idea for young ladies... in my humble opinion. Why?
- Because there are numerous other emotional and moral issues that far outweigh a few minutes of pleasure or satisfying your curiosity or trying to please a selfish & horny BF... such as love, loyalty, honesty, maturity, commitment, dignity, responsibility, mutual respect, and marriage.
If a young girl does not handle her virginity properly... some of the negative feelings and issues might include shame, sneaking around, guilt, abuse, being taken advantage of by a smooth player, an unwanted pregnancy, catching an STD, and heartbreak. Being abandoned by a guy after her virginity is taken... by a guy who lied and claimed that he loved her... would not be a positive experience for any young lady.
Assuming that a teenage lady loses her virginity early, there are often serious emotional repercussions. The circumstances of an early "First Time" can have a lasting effect of how the rest of her life will unfold. Why?
- Because even if a young lady believes that she and her BF are in love... she usually subconsciously knows that odds are probably 99% against him ultimately becoming her husband... and finds out for certain when they break up.
- Because knowing that her parents probably still think that she's a virgin, and how hurt and ashamed they would feel if they knew the truth... especially her Dad if she has one.
- Because she probably has a fear of getting pregnant (there is no such thing as "safe sex").
- Because her childhood innocence is officially gone forever... with no vows, no fanfare, no formal planning, no celebrations, no announcements, no wedding dress, no bridesmaids, no romantic hotel suite, no "just married" signs, no approval from her family, no congratulations from his family, no diamond ring for her, no gold wedding band for him, no blessings from a church pastor... and no driving off on her honeymoon into a "new life" with a loving and proud husband.
- Because losing her virginity based on nothing except the feeling "Gee, I loved him and thought I was ready..." often makes her realize that feelings are frequently not the best foundation for making wise decisions.
- Because afterwards, she will probably wish that her BF was stronger or smarter or less horny, and would have suggested to her "Hey, maybe we shouldn't do this right now..."
- Because her BF will be an unconvicted felon if she's under the legal age of consent (charge = statutory rape)
- Because if the males in her family (Dad, brother, uncle, grandpa?) found out, they would probably want to punch her BF multiple times.
- Because wearing a white wedding dress on her wedding day will be a lie, since she's no longer a virgin.
- Because the loss of virginity at a young age frequently leads to multiple partners before she even becomes a legal adult.
Keeping your panties on until you get married will eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You'll also be protected against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.
Reading the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start) would also be a good idea.
Those are a few things for you to think about, Poppy.
Add your own answer in the comments!
Oatman, Arizona (5)
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Oatman is a former mining town in the Black Mountains of Mohave County, Arizona, United States. Located at an elevation of 2700 ft/896m, it began as a tent camp soon after two prospectors struck a million gold find in 1915, though the area had been already settled for a number of years. Oatman's population grew to more than 3,500 in the course of a year.
After a few other names, Oatman was named in the posthumous honor of Olive Oatman, a young Illinois girl who was kidnapped by (presumably) Yavapai Indians and forced to work as a slave. She was later traded to Mohave Indians who adopted her as a daughter and had her face tattooed in the custom of the tribe. She was released in 1855 near the current site of the town.
In 1921, a fire burned down many of Oatman's smaller buildings, but spared the Oatman Hotel. Built in 1902, the now-Oatman Hotel is the oldest two-story adobe structure in Mohave County, a Mohave County historical landmark and is especially famous as the honeymoon stop of Clark Gable and Carole Lombard after their wedding in Kingman on March 18, 1939. Gable fell in love with the area and returned often to play poker with the miners. The Gable/Lombard honeymoon suite is one of the hotel's major attractions. The other is "Oatie the Ghost." "Oatie," actively promoted by the hotel's current owners, is a friendly poltergeist whose identity is believed to be that of William Ray Flour, an Irish miner who died behind the hotel, presumably from excessive alcohol consumption. Flour's body wasn't discovered until two days after his death and it was hastily buried in a shallow grave near where he was found.
1924 would see United Eastern Mines, the town's main employer permanently shut down operations. By 1941, the remainder of the town's gold mining operations were ordered shut down by the US Government as part of the country's war effort since metals other than gold were needed. Oatman was fortunate insofar as it was located on busy U.S. Route 66 and was able to cater to travelers driving between Kingman and Needles, California. Even that advantage was short-lived as the town was completely bypassed in 1953 when a new route between Kingman and Needles was built. By the 1960s, Oatman was all but abandoned.
Oatman has undergone a renaissance of sorts in recent years thanks to burgeoning worldwide interest in Route 66 and the explosive growth of the nearby gaming town of Laughlin, Nevada, which promotes visits to the town. Wild burros freely roam the town and can be hand-fed carrots and "burro chow," both readily available in practically every store in town. Though normally gentle, the burros are in fact wild and signs posted throughout Oatman advise visitors to exercise caution. The burros are descended from pack animals turned loose by early prospectors, and are protected by the US Department of the Interior. Weekends in Oatman can see anything from classic car rallies to mock "Wild West" shootouts right down the middle of old 66. Independence Day celebrations include a contest where participants attempt to cook an egg on the sidewalk with the aid of solar devices. Along with the rest of Arizona's US 66 towns, Oatman is fiercely proud of its Route 66 heritage and replicas of 66's black-on-white US highway shield are posted all over the town. Route 66 souvenirs abound and many tourists have pasted autographed one-dollar bills on the walls and ceiling of the Oatman Hotel's bar and restaurant. Estimates of the number of bills run into the thousands.
From Laughlin, Needles or Bullhead City, Arizona, Oatman is a short drive on State Route 95 to its intersection with Boundary Cone Road in Fort Mohave. About 10 miles (16 km) east of SR 95, Boundary Cone Road meets with old 66, now named the "Oatman Highway." Oatman is only about four miles (6.5 km) from there.